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“I was adopted from Bersham Hall, Wrexham in 1968 when I was about 6 weeks old. I was then adopted by a couple in their late 40s who had four boys aged between 5 – 14 years old.
All my life I felt so different. I felt like I didn’t fit in, no matter how hard I tried, and at times it made me very depressed. I tried to be the perfect child as I was always told how grateful I should be that they took me in.
It wasn’t until I became a mother at 25 that I first accessed my adoption records. It told me my birth parents had been just 16 so I understood why I’d been adopted.
Years went by and every Christmas, birthday and Mother’s day, I’d bring my adoption file out, start to cry and try to work out who my parents were for a few weeks. In January 2010, my GP asked if I’d ever had counselling because of the adoption and I thought it sounded like a good idea.
I got in touch with After Adoption in August 2010 and they started to help look for my birth mother. In October 2010, they found my mum and established that she was happy to make contact. We wrote to each other for a few months and finally met a week before Christmas 2010. We haven’t looked back since. I also met my birth father in 2011 so now have a larger extended family.
Contact with my mum and her cuddles make everything alright. I’ve now found out that I’m not an only child but have three young brothers and three younger sisters. In March 2012, my mum and I went back to Bersham Hall. This has helped both move on. If it wasn’t for the work of After Adoption we may never have found each other.”